Self Care

Every now and again there seems to be an uptick in “self care” posts.

“Don’t feel guilty doing what is best for you.”

I am not entirely sure where it comes from. Maybe this notion that as a society we are not taking enough care of ourselves; we are too busy taking care of others and forget we are just as important.

For awhile it seemed that self-care was about “treating yo self”. Manicures and pedicures; spa days and brunches with the girls. To me that all sounded just a bit much. I always thought that taking care of ones self was something much simpler than that.

For me, self care always meant something really simple like listening to what your body is telling you it needs. Sometimes that means sleeping in a little bit on the weekend; or going to sleep really early during the week. Other times it means extra long showers or just taking the time to reflect with your journal after a hectic day/week. I refused to believe that taking care of myself meant constantly pampering myself.

When you Google self care the first link is from It is an article from July 2018 explaining What Self Care Is – and What It Isn’t.

To put is simply, I was not completely off. Self care means something different to different people.

Self-care is any activity that we do deliberately in order to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Although it’s a simple concept in theory, it’s something we very often overlook. Good self-care is key to improved mood and reduced anxiety. It’s also key to a good relationship with oneself and others.

Raphailia Michael, MA

If self-care to you means regular facials – you go girl (or boy). But it is something much simpler than that. But because we live in a “constantly busy” time in history we have to plan our own care.

I read somewhere that self-care is something as “simple” as taking a shower and brushing your teeth. Some of us may laugh at that, but just getting up and taking a shower or brushing our teeth is really hard for some people.

Self care could be something as simple as what you know you’re NOT going to do. For me, I put my phone is Do Not Disturb mode at 8pm every night and it does not come out of DND until 8am the next morning. So if you send me a message or email during those hours I will most likely not see it until the next day. Self care to me also means getting enough sleep at night, making healthier food choices and exercising regularly.

The last few months I have got away from doing the things to take care of myself and I can feel the effects of not taking the time to take care of myself. I have become a big fan of naps though.

All I’m saying is to take the time to take care of yourself. You will be a better version of yourself to the loved ones in your life if you do.

What is something that you do to take care of yourself on a regular basis?


  1. Sometimes it really is something as simple as a shower and painting my nails, but most days I don’t give it much thought. I listen to my body and mind and roll with the punches.

    Naps are a must 😉


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