I can’t let this one go.
I am still trying to wrap my head around how it is problematic for a strong, established woman to encourage other women to stand up for themselves and accomplish all the things they have been dreaming of accomplishing.
You are allowed to want more for yourself for no other reason than because it makes your heart happy. You don’t need anyone’s permission, and you certainly shouldn’t have to rely on anyone’s support as the catalyst to get you there.
I thought picking this up I would have picked up on what I seemed to have missed in the first one since about half the internet was so upset about it. But, no.
This one was just as good, if not better than the first one. Girl, Stop Apologizing drives home the fact that we (as women) can do what we want for no other reason than it’s what we want to do.
Hollis does not promote acting like a complete bitch or being nasty but instead to do what feels right for you in your heart.
Yeah, it sounds a little uppity when she talks about her boob job, or how she gets her hair and makeup professionally done but those are the things that make HER happy. In almost the same breath so explains how not everyone feels comfortable being in full makeup (me!). She acknowledges everyone is different. Everyone has different goals and we as women are not only what is expected of us – we are so much more.
When it comes to stepping outside our comfort zones we are so quickly to say why something won’t work in stead of just trying it. The older we get the more afraid of failure we are.
We fail and slip up and screw up and fall down over and over again in our youth, and yet we keep on going. But ask a thirty-seven-year-old woman to take up CrossFit for the first time, and she’ll immediately start to imagine all the reasons she’ll suck at it, and before she knows it, she’s talked herself out of even trying a single time. I think this is because the younger you are, the more failure is expected and the less aware you are of what other people might think if you fall. But, girl, the things you’re attempting to do now aren’t things that you’ve accomplished before, so they should get toddler status.
I think my favorite part of the ENTIRE book was when she made a reference about the term “boss lady” or “bossgirl”. I never really thought about it until those moments when she pointed out that we, as women, are disrespecting ourselves and distorting the image young women have of themselves and the the fight for equality.
Think of all the very important jobs and roles that women have… doctors, lawyers, scientist, police officers. While we may call female police officers policewomen (which sounds ridiculous) We certainly don’t call female doctors or lawyers, girl doctors or girl lawyers. I am not called a girl dispatcher… I am just a Dispatcher. We have worked so hard to get into some of the fields we are in to belittle them by assigning our position a gender.
Like Girl, Go Wash Your Face I would recommend this to all the women out there trying to do the damn thing. Or, trying to figure out what the damn thing is for her.
I found it so empowering (and it helps that I am almost listening to Gary Vaynerchuck’s Crushing I).
I am 35 years old and I still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up. I will be able to retire in 12 years and I am trying to figure out what my next step is. In 12 years the kids will be adults (and hopefully out of my house). In 12 years I won’t even be 50. I will hopefully have enough life left to start a second career; something I really feel passionate amount and Rachel Hollis is giving me the permission to pursue my options apologetically.