I used to love this quote. I did. Now I hate it.
Supposedly Gandhi said it… I’m not entirely sure that is the case either. There are so many things misquoted on the internet I never know who actually said what these days.
Be the change you wish to see the world.
You want things to be different. So it makes sense to start with yourself. Or to quote my man MJ, the man in the mirror.
Do you know who many years I lived by this quote?
How many times I thought to myself if I just set a good example that those in my life will follow.
They have to. I am setting a good example.
I am doing things the “right” way.
I am doing what currently they can not, or will not, do. These people can not possibly see the benefit of doing things this way since they are not doing it themselves.
I am DOING the right thing.
What a bunch of bullshit.
I have spent my whole life watching and feeling, people walk all over me and take my “rightness” for granted.
I want people to go the extra step for the loved ones in their lives; not just for the people at work that are paying them to do so. I want my family to pick up after themselves and get rid of the clutter. I want people to be more accepting of others, especially those that are not like them.
I want people to not waste so much time in front of a screen and then say they have no time or cannot sleep!
I put myself aside time after time after time because I want to be the change. I want others to see me working so hard and do the same; maybe take a little off my back.
Despite popular belief, I really do not enjoy doing 98% of the things I do on a daily basis. But I do them because I have to do them. And I think that if I do them without protest I am showing someone, somewhere, how to do better themselves. Being the change I want to see in the world has not helped my life any easier in reality.
This does not mean I have become a complete asshole. I just stopped expecting to see the change I want to see in the world.
I stopped talking.
I stopped explaining.
I expect people to do exactly what they have always done because I get it, change is hard.
What is a quote/saying that you hear time after time and instantly think BULL SHIT?!