I know I’m not the only one who has ever wondered what is wrong with me? There are a plethora of quizzes that will “analyze your personality” and tell you exactly who you are and why you do things the way you do. And if you’re anything like me you’re probably like, yeah… okay…. I guess…. at the results.
I’m not entirely sure where I came across this book. Probably on Instagram. But I am so glad I did, and I am equally as glad hat I pre-ordered it.
The order confirmation landed in my inbox early on the morning of September 19, 2017 with a loud THUD because I completely forgot I pre-ordered this book. And I am so glad that I did.
Reading has been a bit off for me this year but this book definitely hit the mark. The author dives into all the different types of personality types. Not only explaining each type in great detail but giving examples of each type. Relating it to her own life and even referencing that unknown person in your own life that may resemble that type.
The author did an amazing job of showing why just understanding someone else’s personality is a key part of getting along with that person. We all have those people in our lives that no matter how hard we try we just cannot click with them. And if you’re anything like me you’re convinced its you who has the problem. When in reality it’s both personalities that conflict with one another and they conflict over their inability to understand each other.
They’re not crazy; they’re just not us. They are hardwired differently than we are, and personality insights explain why and how.
This book came at an amazing time for me, personally. Several months ago I was in a Supervisors Training class (kill me). And for some reason part of the curriculum was a personality test. I had never taken a legit personality test before. My results were, ISTJ, the “trustee”. I had no fucking clue what the meant, but I was fine with it until the instructor basically said that anyone with that personality type would have a hard time being a supervisor and basically that those with a more extroverted personality would need to “be there to support” the introverted supervisors. Excuse my language but fuck you lady… I was pretty much done with that class, and personality typing until I read this book.
I thought it was complete bullshit that this woman could make such generalizations without even knowing me, or anyone else in the class. This book pointed out exactly how often these tests are given in order to “place” people in the proper careers. Which I don’t exactly agree with. Maybe because I feel I have a very extroverted job while I have an introverted personality. If I had taken this type of test prior to getting my job there is no way I would have matched with it.
The only thing I would say that I did not like about this book was that towards the end the author mentioned some maybe unfavorable personality tests one could do but never really dove into either of them. Maybe because that would have doubled the size of the book. But a lot of time was taken to explain the real differences between extroverted and introverted, the MBTI results and the eight cognitive functions. As well as how our personalities don’t really change as we get older and why. But only touched on finding our strengths and playing to them. As well as understanding the darker sides of our personalities known as Enneagram.
The way I see it, if you’re going to go step by step to explain to me what my personality type is… I want to know the good and the bad to get a full picture.
Overall I would definitely recommend this book to anyone wanting to learn more about themselves or the loved ones in their lives. I will probably be giving this book out for Christmas if only so that the people in my life can understand me a little more.